Welcome to my sorority recruitment series! I started this blog a year ago to help women like me through college, Greek life, and every little bit in between and I’m not slowing down now! This series is purely to help you in your search for the perfect sisterhood.
Sorority recruitment can be very stressful for a lot of sorority women. Who knew finding your BFFs could cause so much anxiety? Although I really hope that’s not the case for you, it’s so common and happens to most, if not all, going through recruitment. I’m here to (try) to save you from your nervous jitters.
Going through recruitment as a sophomore can be incredibly intimidating. You will be with PNMs younger than you and you might even be talking to girls your age in the chapters. There’s so any circumstances that cause sophomore PNMs, but regardless of why you’re going through recruitment as a sophomore, you’re not alone. Because I don’t have personal experience with this, I asked a few of my friends that went through as sophomores about their experiences!
These are answers from three different girls, all of whom are in a sorority now, but went through recruitment as sophomores. I hope these stories give you hope, ease your anxiety and encourage you to go through recruitment no matter your age!
1. What was the reason you went through recruitment as a sophomore?
A: As a freshman I didn’t feel like I was completely myself and was trying to be someone I wasn’t. I knew whatever house I was placed in wouldn’t be a good fit because I wasn’t being true to who I was. When I was more confident in myself With friends, being away from home, dealing with academics, I knew I would be able to go through recruitment and find a home that was genuine to who I was.
B: I didn’t go through as a freshman because I didn’t know much about Greek life and the little things I did know were all the negative stereotypes about it. However, after my first Semester I realized everything I thought I knew was wrong. I loved all the people I had met in Greek life and I liked hearing about all the fun things they did! No one in my family had ever done Greek life so I was excited to be the first one in my family to try it out!
C: It was a combination of reasons. Towards the end of my freshman year I took a look at my year and realized, although I had amazing friends, they were only within my major. So a big reason for me was to branch out and find some more diversity. Also, being from the South, joining a sorority is a very normal part of college life, and I was interested when I was coming into college, but I was advised that being in the honors college plus being a Musical Theatre major might be too much to if I also added on a sorority. I realized I would’ve been fine, but I’m not unhappy that I waited to go through recruitment.
2. Did you feel you were at the disadvantage as a sophomore in recruitment?
A: Actually I felt the complete opposite. I felt confident about knowing what college had to offer me. I knew who my friends were already and I was no longer a newbie to the community. I knew houses didn’t tend to take more than a few sophomores so that was a bit nerve racking but besides that I felt I was at an advantage.
B: Honestly, I thought it was an advantage. I had already had friends who had gone through recruitment so they gave me pointers while going through it! And as a sophomore, I knew people in almost every house so there was almost always some families faces which was very reassuring! And since people knew me, they were able to make judgments about me on something more than how I looked and my resume!
C: I, personally, never felt that I was at a disadvantage. Since I didn’t know many girls outside of the theatre department, I was pretty unknown in most sororities so I didn’t have a “reputation” or anything.
3. As a sophomore do you feel you were treated differently?
A: I feel like the girls doing the recruiting felt like they could be more laid back with me, since most were the same grade, and we had more things to connect about. Other people just wanted to know about your life and conversations tended to flow more naturally.
B: Yes I did think I was treated differently, but not in a bad way. I understand that its because there aren’t as many sophomores going through and there are limited spots as sophomores so I felt like it was a mini rush for sophomores!
C: I don’t think I received any “special” treatment. However, I did know people within some of the sororities so I did feel a sense of comfort and ease with that, which made me a bit more confident.
4. What was the best part about going through as a sophomore?
A: The best part about rushing as a sophomore was getting to know all of the freshman in my group and in break rooms. I am still friends with them two years later and one of the other sophomore girls I met is now one of my closest friends. It was fun helping the freshman take a fresh perspective on rush and let them know “there are no good or bad houses.”
B: I think just knowing people in the houses! It just made me more comfortable so I felt like I was more myself when talking to people! I also liked knowing a little about each house before [going through recruitment] because I could see if their recruitment was similar to how I knew the houses from last year!
C: I think it’s definitely knowing people within the sororities, and also knowing things about the sororities outside of what they/the packet tells you. I was able to already have some connections with some girls, and based on the girls I knew kind of have a sense of what it would be like to be in that sorority and whether I would fit in with those girls outside of the weirdness that is the process of recruitment.
5. What was the worst thing about going through recruitment as a sophomore?
A: Going in knowing the stereotypes of each sorority. Every house has a group of girls who fit into the stereotype and another group, and more, who don’t. They clouded my judgement during the process and I couldn’t keep a complete open mind.
B: Honestly, nothing! I liked going through rush as a sophomore because I was me, I was comfortable with who I was, and I knew that if it didn’t work out I still had great friends at school!
C: I would say knowing the “reputations” of the sororities. Since I was really removed from Greek life freshman year, the “reputations” that I knew were the really general stereotypes so knowing that was a little damaging to the image of the sorority in my head. However, I really tried to go in to each house with a blank slate, even if I had preconceived notions of the sorority. Almost every time, I reversed the “reputations” I thought I knew.
6. What advice would you give “older” PNMs?
A: You have already done a year unaffiliated and passed with flying colors. If things don’t work the way you want to, you’ve already done it once so it will be easy to do again. Be a part of the house you genuinely will fit in; not the house with the pretty girls or the girls who party, just because you want to be associated with them. This whole sisterhood thing lasts longer four years and the houses reputation won’t follow you out of college.
B: Just be yourself and don’t worry about being “older”! It really will work out the way it’s supposed too!
C: Go into every house with a clear mind, forget anything you may have heard throughout your other years. You really don’t know anything for sure until you enter the houses and talk to the girls. Also, be prepared to become a mentor for the “younger” PNMs going through. They will think you are a magic 8-ball who has all the answers to recruitment/sororities, even if you are a clueless theatre major who thought kappa and theta were the same sorority and chi was pronounced like a chai latte. Remember, you have survived however many years of college without Greek life, and if things don’t go to your liking, you will survive it again. That goes for any age PNMs. Greek life is a wonderful place, but it isn’t the end-all, be-all. However, when you give yourself a clear mind and are your true self for all the houses, you’ll find a wonderful home where you belong with girls who will be your sisters for life. Which is just an awesome thing.
Thank you to the lovely ladies that helped me with this post, I hope you enjoyed it as much as I did! I really hope this helped some older PNMs, and I wish you the best of luck while going through recruitment. Please don’t hesitate to ask me any questions! Want more sorority recruitment advice? Check out the rest of my series here!